With children is an absolute gift. I have some good jobs in my life, but nothing compared to the joys of being a mother. I sit back at night and laugh at all the funny things they say and do. Last night my 3 and 4 year old were arguing about whether I, AKA was a pony corn unicorn. You can not make this stuff. But how do we know that mothers with parenting is an enormous amount of unexplained stress. There is no other way to put it, parenting is hard, period! I'm not perfect, but I feel better in certain areas and do my best, that all we can do as mothers. Below are some tips that I found to be helpful to have in managing my stress.
Keep a daily to-do list: Thanks to Sandy, one of my great mentors, I keep a notebook monthly and each page a day of the month. I have done this for years. Every night I write in my list of what needs to be done the next day that I need to call, I have to make appointments, etc. to be what actually works best on super busy days breaking my day into hours, what I do and when. It keeps me on the right path, because I have a terrible memory and with each child we have, I somehow manage to get more forgetful.
Keep a daily to-do list: Thanks to Sandy, one of my great mentors, I keep a notebook monthly and each page a day of the month. I have done this for years. Every night I write in my list of what needs to be done the next day that I need to call, I have to make appointments, etc. to be what actually works best on super busy days breaking my day into hours, what I do and when. It keeps me on the right path, because I have a terrible memory and with each child we have, I somehow manage to get more forgetful.
Give yourself some wiggle room: This topic reminds me of my days in corporate America. A boss once said that if an employee is always late for work because they are stuck in traffic, they just have to go home early because the traffic is now a well-known daily obstacle. There is no longer a random event. The same applies for us. As an example, we know for a fact it takes a long time to get out the door with children. Let's be honest, it can sometimes flat out painful. This is no surprise. We know that this is to deal with each and every day one of the challenges we have. So, by yourself more time to get to places you will go your stress level down. Trust me! If I know it takes 15 minutes to drive me somewhere, I have the goal of each of the door planning for a 25-30 minute drive, not 15 This helps me tremendously. Do not get me wrong, we are still late sometimes, especially in getting to the early Sunday morning, but we have significant improvements by us has a little leeway.
Make quiet time required: I honestly do not know how to survive without mothers quiet time. My husband works long hours. Yesterday alone, he worked a 18-hour day. So most days, it is flying solo with my three young children. And a house with children can sometimes really loud and chaotic. If I do not get up early and have me time, I'll certainly incredibly cranky and have to play catch up all day. My morning quiet time gives me the opportunity to look at the continuous news while enjoying a few minutes of social media, have my Bible time and work. This time is good for the soul and it's worth getting up early for. Quiet time is important for your children. Our children need and deserve a happy, fulfilled mom. I have personally found out the day with some quiet time works best for me. You need to find what works best for you, but make sure you put it in.
Understand that you are falling behind, and that's OK: plan for the fact that the plan will probably not go as planned. Ha! I'm not a negative Nelly, I'm just smart. My husband sometimes tells me to get rid of my to-do list. Trust me, he does not know what would happen if I did that! His point is simple, though, do not let that overwhelm the daily tasks. Sometimes your list of things to do will not happen as planned. Some days you will be glad just to brush your teeth and shower! Will happen these days. And, your list of things to do and people still call because its the next day. Others are easy to deal with. If they do not understand that, they are either too far away from small children and not a very compassionate friend. So, do not sweat it!
Make quiet time required: I honestly do not know how to survive without mothers quiet time. My husband works long hours. Yesterday alone, he worked a 18-hour day. So most days, it is flying solo with my three young children. And a house with children can sometimes really loud and chaotic. If I do not get up early and have me time, I'll certainly incredibly cranky and have to play catch up all day. My morning quiet time gives me the opportunity to look at the continuous news while enjoying a few minutes of social media, have my Bible time and work. This time is good for the soul and it's worth getting up early for. Quiet time is important for your children. Our children need and deserve a happy, fulfilled mom. I have personally found out the day with some quiet time works best for me. You need to find what works best for you, but make sure you put it in.
Understand that you are falling behind, and that's OK: plan for the fact that the plan will probably not go as planned. Ha! I'm not a negative Nelly, I'm just smart. My husband sometimes tells me to get rid of my to-do list. Trust me, he does not know what would happen if I did that! His point is simple, though, do not let that overwhelm the daily tasks. Sometimes your list of things to do will not happen as planned. Some days you will be glad just to brush your teeth and shower! Will happen these days. And, your list of things to do and people still call because its the next day. Others are easy to deal with. If they do not understand that, they are either too far away from small children and not a very compassionate friend. So, do not sweat it!
We must do our best to be efficient, but it can not be an obsession. If you have what seems like an unproductive day, believe me, you are still productive. Chances are you spent the day putting out fires, dealing with unexpected tasks, caring for sick children, etc. We are raising children, and it is the most important task that we have received. It is also the biggest balancing act you can imagine. We may not be able to train, work or socialize as much or as long as we want. However, we must keep in mind, this is just a season of life, and we are supposed to grow during this trip. We are for progress, not looking for perfection. Our children will interrupt our plans. But they are a blessing and our number one priority. So, remember to treat them in this way.
Jennifer has 7 years of direct sales experience in the skin care and health and wellness industry. She is a former personal trainer, fitness manager, and group fitness instructor. Jennifer is a work from home wife and mother with three children, four years old and younger. You can with people who are simply trying to merge a healthy lifestyle with a SUPER busy life relate.
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